A Gen Z perspective on long-term relationships and marriage (in 2026)
Relationships are pretty troubled nowadays, but I have solutions.
2026 marks two important milestones for my husband and I’s relationship. This year, we will hit the seven-year mark of being together (which, apparently for many couples, is when the “seven-year itch” kicks in, which we proactively prevented from happening) and one year of being married.
I thought that, with these anniversaries, it would be interesting to provide a Gen Z perspective on what this title indicates: long-term relationships and marriage. I have many alternative thoughts on both; let’s get into it.
On Long-Term Relationships
It makes sense to start this conversation with a commonly accepted idea: long-term relationships come with many benefits. And, frankly, so does not being in a relationship at all! But what I think comes with little to no benefits, in my opinion, are “situationships”.
As a fellow Gen Z, young adults seem to infrequently make it to the long-term relationship stage because they seem to fear interpersonal commitment. They want everything that comes with a romantic relationship without fully assuming the roles of “boyfriend and girlfriend.” What commonly ends up happening here is one person usually finds themselves dissatisfied with the relationship’s dynamics, which makes it very challenging to keep up the charade. So, tying it back into long-term relationships, these become challenging for Gen Z to attain due to the challenges of navigating mainstream dating. I will write an article on this specifically, but back to long-term relationships…
I think Gen Z relationships would have a much higher success rate simply by getting back to the basics. Learning how to effectively communicate. Navigating challenges and differences of opinion. Making personal improvements to show up more emotionally intelligent in relationships. These are all skills that are feasible with enough regard… but the question is whether Gen Z is willing to make some changes to fix their relationship dynamics.
On Marriage
Statistics show that marriage rates have especially collapsed among those aged 25 years and younger. It is no surprise that this is the case, given that Gen Z dating culture is effed.
As the years go on, people also continue to find themselves presented with different ways they can go about their life (many of which become more widely adopted and thus more mainstream). Many of those lifestyles are without marriage. It is ultimately individuals’ prerogative about what kind of life they want to lead; I just knew for me that marriage would be an important part of it.
Marriage is a highly personal decision evidently interwoven with ones’ spouse and what they want out of life as well. I think that, in moving further from marriage as a society, though, that we’ve collectively become more avoidant of long-term partnership because we’re ultimately fearful of entering the next chapter of our lives and what we will “lose” along with it. Change is the most natural part of nature; somewhere along the way we stopped embracing it.
A Gen Z’s Principles to a Happy Relationship
Now, I thought it would be interesting to share principles I consistently reinforce in my own relationship that keep it in good health. They are as follows:
Differentiate Between Questions and Statements
This is important to remain aware of. “Can/would you” questions are often yes/no. Statements are not always up for negotiation if they are meant to establish a personal boundary. For example, take “Would you mind taking out the trash?” versus “I need to some time alone.” The former is asking for a favor; the latter is asserting that something needs to happen. I am deliberate with how I communicate with my husband.
Take a Partner-First Approach (On Both Ends)
If you put your partners’ preferences first and your partner puts your preferences first, then both of your preferences are tended for. If you put your preferences first and your partner puts their preferences first, you will both end up tending to your preferences, but not in a way that nurtures the relationship. This dynamic creates more independence versus interdependence and can create doubt, insecurity, and conflict. By taking a genuine interest in each other first, both of you (and your relationship) will be further supported.
Just Get it Done!
If you’re asked if you would be able to do something (i.e., put the clothes away or run an errand), just do the thing. Why quibble over the dishes or the errand? Be helpful.
There can come a point where effort put forth and assistance received become disproportionate, but provided you’re not doing extremely more compared to your partner, this dynamic works well. Especially when you receive extra help and support when you really need it.
Don’t take advantage of the system here but fall back on it when you could really use the help. That is beauty of interdependence versus independence.
Be Constructively Frank
I find it very important to keep the dialogue open to share what’s working and not working. Avoid letting problems go unaddressed. Find a resolution that works with you and your partner and demonstrate that you are taking the issue seriously with your actions.
Uphold Companionship Above All
Above everything else, enjoy each other’s company. It’s so important to me, in all seriousness, to be silly, laugh, and maintain a genuinely pleasant atmosphere. Even when something goes awry during the day, this sort of dynamic that I have with my husband always lightens my mood and makes life enjoyable.
Closing Thoughts
I have a lot to say on long-term relationships and marriage, but those are my most important thoughts in a nutshell. There is more I will write on the topic in the future, so stay tuned if you’re interested in exploring these ideas more.
Now I’m opening the floor to you. What do you think are the largest tropes in modern relationships? Do you think we’ll turn a corner in the relationships and marriage scenes? Be sure to share with me what you think; I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this.